Ricardo T. launches The Reflection Method, a 17-question relationship assessment

Ricardo T., the creator of All Green Flags, has launched The Reflection Method, a 17-question assessment about patterns in dating and relationships. The tool runs in a web browser at allgreenflags.app and is now at version 1.4 which can be saved as an widget on your mobile device. It is described on the site as a framework for reading patterns in someone you are dating, such as a pull-away after closeness, a story that keeps changing, or the feeling of walking on eggshells.

Each question asks about an observable behaviour or emotional pattern: how someone responds to closeness, conflict or your boundaries. Answers are weighted across three dimensions, narcissistic, avoidant and healthy. The reading shows where the scores cluster, along with patterns, green flags and things to watch. Before starting, users can pick a relationship type: dating, long-term partners, married, long-distance, living together, or prefer not to say. They can also pick an age range: 18 to 34, 35 to 54, 55 and over, or prefer not to say. Both choices are optional. They reword the questions and swap the examples, change the practical next steps at the end, never change the score, and stay on the device. The assessment and the site's guides are free. The scoring model, questions and result framings are proprietary.

The site states clearly that the tool is not therapy or diagnosis. It does not assess, label or treat any mental-health condition and is not a substitute for care from a licensed professional. People in distress or worried about their safety are pointed to a therapist or a crisis support service, and the site keeps a crisis support page. Around the assessment, Ricardo T. writes and produces The Reflection Method podcast and blog. There is no studio, network or sponsor behind the show. Episodes start as notes from questions people ask most often about confusing relationship dynamics, and every episode is also published as a full written article on the blog, so readers can search the wording that matches their situation or share a section with someone they trust. The blog includes a narcissistic abuse recovery series of 11 articles meant to be read in order, plus guides on topics such as gaslighting, boundaries, grey rock, no contact and grief.

The assessment can be started from the home page at allgreenflags.app. Questions, feedback and bug reports go through the message form on the contact page. There is no phone, SMS or live chat support, and the aim is to reply within a few business days. The contact inbox is not a crisis service.